Stop fulfilling your own Self-defeating prophecy.
Liberate the Point of YOU. Bring your LOVE to life.
Kimberly Dawson, Creator, Guide & Co-Conspirator
In 2010, I was a day or two away from dying … and I didn’t know it.
While creating my first brand, Flaunt Consulting, and standing for others to be BIG AND BOLD in their own authentic Self-expression and personal fulfillment, I was metaphorically starving my Self of this very possibility and literally disappearing due to a 30+ year undiagnosed struggle with anorexia.
This paradox — standing for others to show up fully, while I disappeared — was no coincidence. And it wasn’t just about me. This wisdom has become the core of my life’s work:
What you stand for …
What you seek …
What you resist & deny your Self …
are all the same possibility.
This possibility is the Point of YOU.
Learning to accept, express and fulfill this LOVE is your Soulwork.
Imagine your family adopted a puppy. It’s absolutely adorable in every way, until it pees inside, chews on shoes, gets “too” excited or whines when it needs attention. You control these natural behaviors with some form of deterrence, and you reward the puppy’s Self-restraint. Over time, the puppy learns how to be a “good dog.”
YOU are the puppy. Your earliest life experiences conditioned the ways you see, express and become your Self … and the ways you resist your true Self. To seek the “love” you desired and to avoid negative consequences, you learned to suppress your authentic Self to adapt to the behaviors of those on whom you depended for survival. You learned how to play a Self-defensive role, that you unknowingly have continued to choose, over and over again … manifesting and keeping your Self STUCK in “the story of your life.”
Your Resist-Stance keeps you STUCK
In 1997, I returned to the U.S. after working in Munich, Germany for three years. Earning a Silicon-Valley-income as Director of Sales for a highly funded Internet start-up, I had purchased a lovely old house in midtown Sacramento, my home town.
From the outside looking in, I was very “successful.” Inside, was a different story.
I vividly remember one day, sitting on the toilet seat, head in my hands, tears streaming down my face, crying out, “I have everything that should make me happy!!! What’s wrong with me?!?”
I tried Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT) to “improve” my thoughts. I read personal growth books to “improve” my habits. I changed jobs to “improve” my stress level. I moved to Portland to “improve” my relationship. On and on and on. While each attempt to improve offered temporary satisfaction, sooner or later the same old sadness and emptiness always crept back in.
I was missing the point. I was stuck trying to improve my conditioned (diminished) self — not being true to my own Soul. This was like trying to get a root-bound plant to grow in a tiny pot. It doesn’t matter how much you talk to it, or give it different soil, water, or light, it will not be able to thrive … and, eventually, it will whither and die.
Fulfillment does not come from making your conditioned “self” better. It comes from getting over your conditioned ego-self to realize and fulfill your True Self.
You don’t need to FIX your self. You get to FULFILL your SELF.
YOUR SHADOW gives form to YOUR LIGHT
For as long as I can remember, I have wanted for everyone to get to experience the fullest expression and value of their own one-of-a-kind existence … to have the chance to realize their own full potential. This is my light.
Why this? Because I learned, “I don’t get to” … and I don’t want anyone else to feel this pain.
My life experiences conditioned me to believe: I don’t deserve to be happy expressing the out-standing talents and gifts I was born with, because my accomplishments and successes are selfish, so I will be abandoned. To survive, I have to prove my “goodness,” by sacrificing my Self and redirecting my ambitions, skills and efforts toward making others’ dreams come.
This is my shadow.
Ironically, it is our own bright light that casts our shadow, and it is the contrast offered by this shadow that guides us back to our light.
My shadow reflects to me, in contrast, that I also deserve to be happy expressing my full Self; that I don’t have to prove that I am “not bad” to earn this right; and that the best way to help others to express and fulfill their potential is to express and fulfill my own … more and more.
The lighter it gets,the more we see our shadow.
The darker it gets, the more we see our light.
When things are going well, our deepest fears lurk in the shadows. When things are going poorly, our deepest desires are illuminated.
Just as day turns to night, and night turns to day, our lives are the dance of our own shadow and light. The point is not to dismiss one or the other. It is to recognize and listen to their complementary guidance. The point is to master our Soul’s purpose through our one-of-a-kind existence, by bringing our shadow and light into balance and wholeness — into oneness. This is our Soulwork. This is bringing our love to life.
Your Soulwork Journey BEGINS HERE
LEVEL 1 — Liberate the Point of YOU
In this series of exercises, you will explore your shadow and light within repeating patterns of friction in different relationships (both personal and professional). You’ll discover that all of these seemingly different struggles are actually the same underneath. You will uncover:
the possibility you STAND FOR … and RESIST for your Self;
the ways you were CONDITIONED TO BELIEVE:
1) “I am not …” (Self-denial); 2) “I have to …” (Self-defense); 3) “I don’t get to …” (Self defeat); and …your PERSONAL “KEY” (your own wisdom) to free your Self from this conditioning … again and again.
LEVEL 2 — Uncover Your Soulwork Archetype Map
In these exercises, you work with Carl Jung’s 12 primary archetypes to identify the 3 you resonate with most (related to talents), the 3 you resist most (related to desires/weaknesses), the 3 that represent your deepest fears (related to goals), and the 3 you’ve shut down for your Self (related to life strategies). The outcome is a deeply personal, step-by-step Soulwork map, that guides you in making very specific attitude, energy and direction shifts so that you can:
ACCEPT your true Self in INDIVIDUALITY;
EXPRESS your true Self in RELATIONSHIP; and …
FULFILL your true Self in LEADERSHIP of your own life.
LEVEL 3: Align Your Soulwork Journey with Nature’s Rhythms
Your unique map of 12 Soulwork archetypes aligns directly with the 12 moon cycles of the year and the 12 chakras. Together, these offer a profound context for your journey of recognizing and healing the emotional wounds of conditioning and making transformative choices throughout the year, supported by:
the energies of the seasons (e.g. winter transformation = seed/sprout; spring emergence = grow/bud; summer expansion = flower/fruit; fall realization = harvest/compost);
the chakras (e.g. security, pleasure, personal will, etc); and
your personal archetypal Soulwork (e.g. accepting your autonomy, forgiving your joy, deserving faith in your Self).
Who Am I?
Self-AWARENESS
ATTITUDE SHIFT
DENY —> ALLOW
1st Moon Cycle ~ WINTER Solstice
ACCEPT
AUTONOMY (talent)
2nd Moon Cycle
FORGIVE
JOY (desire)
3rd Moon Cycle
DESERVE
FAITH (goal)
4th Moon Cycle ~ SPRING Equinox
OPEN UP
COURAGE (strategy)
in SOVEREIGNTY
Who Am I Being?
Self-EXPRESSION
ENERGY SHIFT
DEFEND —> EXPRESS
5th Moon Cycle
DETACH
“KNOWING” (fear)
6th Moon Cycle
RELEASE
CONTROL (weakness)
7th Moon Cycle ~ SUMMER Solstice
LISTEN
with GENEROSITY (talent)
8th Moon Cycle
RELATE
with EQUALITY (desire)
in RELATIONSHIP
Who Am I Becoming?
Self-REALIZATION
DIRECTION SHIFT
DEFEAT —>FULFILL
9th Moon Cycle
HEAL
IMAGINATION (goal)
10th Moon Cycle ~ FALL Equinox
TRUST
FREEDOM (strategy)
11th Moon Cycle
RISE UP
in ONENESS (fear)
12th Cycle
LIBERATE
LOVE (weakness)
in LEADERSHIP
— EXAMPLE —
My Soulwork Journey with My Archetypes
Who Am I?
Self-AWARENESS
1st | EXPLORER
I ACCEPT MY AUTONOMY of ambition to be true to my own Soul (talent).
2nd | JESTER
I FORGIVE MY JOY being present and living in the moment with full enjoyment (desire).
3rd | INNOCENT
I DESERVE FAITH in my worthiness to be happy (goal).
4th | HERO
I OPEN UP MY COURAGE to be vulnerable, by being as strong and competent as I am (strategy).
in SOVEREIGNTY
Who Am I Being?
Self-EXPRESSION
5th | SAGE
I DETACH FROM KNOWING that I will be betrayed (fear).
6th | RULER
I RELEASE MY CONTROL of others’ success by being authoritarian (weakness).
7th | CAREGIVER
I LISTEN WITH THE GENEROSITY of compassion (talent), without being a martyr or exploited.
8th | MAGICIAN
I RELATE WITH EQUALITY of understanding the
fundamental laws of the universe (desire).
in RELATIONSHIP
Who Am I Becoming?
Self-REALIZATION
9th | CREATOR
I HEAL THE WAY I IMAGINE the possibility to express & realize my own vision (goal).
10th | REBEL
I TRUST MY FREEDOM to “rock the boat” and disrupt my status quo (strategy).
11th | ORPHAN
I RISE UP in oneness by belonging being out-standing (fear).
12th | LOVER
I LIBERATE MY LOVE from having to please others at the expense of losing my own identity (weakness).