I wish to acknowledge, here, the human beings whose rights to Self-determination and dignity are being threatened and denied.

I believe strongly it is our responsibility as human beings:
To become aware of, and get over, the ways we each uniquely learned to give away our personal power and agency to those we were dependent upon, whose conditional love taught us to “abandon” our Selves, to avoid being punished or ignored or abandoned by them — to earn the “love” we needed.
To reacquaint our surpressed selves with our highest, truest Selves, and to bring our love to life within our Selves — by being true to our own Soul.
and then to express this love in the world, by standing together in our collective power and reclaiming uiversal dignity and equality for all. This is the journey and the destiny of our Soulwork.

, by people whose fragile egos have lost all sense of human decency. who selfishly seek power via unlawful force, taking it from anyone they choose to proclaim as less-worthy than themselves. Today, with the exception of extremely rich white men — and all those who kneel to their injustice with the naive hope of self-preservation and personal gain — each and every one of us is in danger of succumbing to victimhood.

How many times have you said, “I’m never doing THAT again” … only to realize that you’ve done THAT again … and again, and again?

I once saw a flea circus in Munich. The guy said flea-training begins by putting fleas into a jar with air holes in the lid. Apparently, fleas can jump 150x their own height, but when they hit the lid multiple times they learn to control the height of their jump to just below the lid. When the lid is removed, the fleas continue only jumping to that height. You are the flea.

Like those fleas, we learn only to see possibilities for our Selves “under the lid” of our conditioning. My subconscious, default starting place for every choice I make in my life goes like: “My existence hurts people, so I’m not really supposed to be here. So the only way to belong and be loved is to help other people succeed and feel good about themselves.” I don’t need to tell you what my personal and professional relationships were like, do I? From this way of seeing my Self, I kept fulfilling my own Self-defeating prophecy of never being good enough to “make” other people feel good about themselves

It’s impossible to shift direction, without falling back into your conditioned patterns.

Trying to “fix” our conditioned Selves, by being

As long as we’re stuck in our Self-denying, Self-defending, and Self-defeating patterns of conditioning, we will keep makes choices that only fulfilling our own Self-defeating prophecies.

The problem: I was stuck in my conditioning. The only opportunities I could see for my self to improve were in continuing to make others dreams come true. I was planted in a tiny pot and root bound. My conditioning didn’t let me see much less explore to realize who I really am and to fulfill my true Self.

There was nothing wrong with me … with my true Self. What was “wrong” was that I trying to “improve” the parts of me that were “bad,” and had to be rejected, shamed, denied and shut down.

, shaming my desires, denying that I was worthy of being happy, and shutting down my true Self … and it was this diminished me that I kept trying to improve while still trapped in rejection, shame, denial and closure.

The problem was that, based on the way I was conditioned t

Living my life trying to improve my conditioned self.

Your true Self doesn’t need improvement. It needs fulfillment

I kept trying to improve my Self to fit into the life I thought I was “supposed” to lead …

— always working to “improve” to make others happy. Although financially rewarding, year after year I felt more and more empty. I studied personal growth books and participated in personal growth workshops. I changed jobs. I changed cities. I got married. I got divorced. All the while helping other people to be successful — never feeling like I belonged anywhere.

a core talent, desire, goal and “state-of-being,” that you were conditioned to reject, shame, deny and shut down, respectively — and the truth of your Self that you get to accept, forgive, deserve and open up to.

the specific ways you you attach, take control, defend and fight for your Self in relationships

the way you fear and control your Self-expression your Self in relationship

1) the individual talent, desire, goal and ways of being that got rejected, shamed, denied and shut down.

the subconscious beliefs that confine every choice you make and how to shift them;
2) the subconscious weaknesses that inhibit your desires and how to .
3) the subconscious fears in relationships and the ways you control your Self and others and how to shift them;

The first 4 shifts are about Self-AWARENESS of your core INDIVIDUAL talent, desire, goal and strategy.

The second 4 shifts are about the way you EXPRESS your talent, desire, goal and strategy in RELATIONSHIP.

The third 4 shifts are about Self-REALIZATION and your talent, desire, goal and strategy in LEADERSHIP.

invited and supported by the changing seasons, over 12-13 moon cycles.

the 12 chakras, your 12 archetypes and the 12 universal laws.

that you learn one by one over the course of a year (12-13 moon cycles) and repeat again and again, to become more and more fulfilled in our life. For example:

1st Moon Cycle - Winter Solstice - begins the season of transformation - associated with the 1st/Root Chakra -

that you will learn to flow through, again and again, to overcome your Self-defeating patterns in ever expanding ways. Each of these 12 shifts is defined by one of your 12 archetypes, in alignment with one of 12 consecutive moon cycles, the 12 chakras and the 12 universal laws. For example:

The 1st shift is in alignment with the moon cycle of the Winter Solstice, the beginning of the season of transformation. It’s an attitude shift: from rejection to acceptance of the individuality of a particular strength/talent that you inherently possess. have paid attention to the rhythms of nature, starting with the seasons and then more specifically to each moon cycle. Although each of our lives and circumstances are completely unique on the surface, there are energetic s

4 Seasons
Winter is the season of Transformation. It’s about shifting how we “see” our true Selves.
Spring is the season of Emergence. It’s about shifting from .
Summer is the season of Expansion. as our true Seves — Listening + Relating + Healing
Fall Realization — Trusting + Rising Up + Liberating

Each moon cycle throughout the year invites a specific kind of shift.

Take this year long journey, supported by the seasonal energies of each Moon Cycle.

The order of your archetypes (1-12) lines up with the order of the moon cycles (1-12). Each moon cycle reprsents a specific shift. Your archetype and the moon cycle description will give you 
new context for understanding what you are experiencing in your life and how to make choices for your Self to shift what isn't working. The journal pages are there for recording the shifts you see and commitments you choose to make to your Self. Your lifework is re-choreographing the dance of your life. As you focus on specific parts, one at a time, the shifts you make begin to impact all other parts, while the parts you haven't focused on, yet, can still hold you back. I encourage you to look ahead to your work for each moon cycle, to see how all the parts fit together. You'll see you are "being" all of this work, all of the time. The moon cycles and season changes are the music to which you dance. With practice and patience, you'll realize that you LOVE this new dance of your life.

Each of us has learned, from life experiences, who we are and who we aren’t, how we can and cannot “be” (express our Selves) in relationship others, and what we do and don’t get to become in our lives.

Life has taught us to believe that, at our very core, who we are is inherently one of these “not good” traits:
1) guilty, bad or wrong (innocent); 2) not included or standing out (orphan); 3) weak or vulnerable (hero); 4) selfish or ungrateful (caregiver); 5) trapped or conforming (explorer); 6) powerless or ineffectual (rebel); 7) unwanted or alone (lover); 8) mediocre or never good enough (creator); 9) boring or bored (jester); 10) ignorant or not knowing (sage); 11) inconsequential or causing problems (magician); or 12) irresponsible or overruled (ruler).

For example, I learned to believe that, no matter how hard I try to “be good,” I am inherently “bad” and others’ pain is always my fault.

To defend our diminished selves in relationships, life taught us that we have to “be” (express our diminished selves) with one of these exaggerated traits: 1) be optimistic about others to the point of naivety (innocent); 2) be empathetic toward others to the point of losing oneself (orphan); 3) be strong and competent for others to the point of arrogance and always needing a battle to fight (hero); 4) be compassionate and generous to others to the point of martyrdom and exploitation (caregiver); 5) be autonomous from others to the point of aimless wandering or becoming a misfit (explorer); 6) be radically free from others to the point of crossing over to the dark side (rebel); 7) be committed to others to the point of losing our own identity (lover); 8) be imaginative for others to the point of perfectionism (creator); 9) be joyful for others to the point of frivolity and wasting time (jester); 10) be intelligent and wise for others, to the point of studying details forever and never acting for our Selves (sage); 11) be finding win-win solutions for others, to the point of being manipulative (magician); 12) be responsible and lead others, to the point of authoritarianism and not delegating (ruler).

For example, I learned to believe that, in relationships, I had to defend my unselfishness and gratitude, by being overly generous and compassionate to others, without having any compassion for my Self, to the point of being a martyr and exploited.

Each of us has learned, through the experiences of our lives, the parts of our Selves that are acceptable and not acceptable, theabsolutely cannot do, and what directions we can go in and which paths are closed for us.

How do you feel stuck?

Are you the one who is always guilty of doing something bad or wrong?
Are you the one who is left out of a friend group or community because you don’t belong?
Are you always the one who has to be strong for everyone else?
Are you the one who always has to take care of others and never gets to take care of your Self?
Explorer
Are you always feeling powerless to change the world around you, so you can live the life you want?
Lover
Creator
Jester
Sage
Magician
Are you always the one who always has to lead or solve the problem?
Are you stuck feeling like you are unseen or unheard
Are you stuck feeling like you are insignificant or inconsequential in a partnership or friendship?
Are you stuck feeling like you are unappreciated or undervalued by a boss, colleague, employee or client?
Are you stuck feeling like you are never enough for others, or others are never enough for you?

Are you stuck feeling like you are unfulfilled. despite having what you thought you wanted, or not getting what you most desire?

Are you the one whose needs and desires are insignificant or inconsequential in a partnership or friendship?

Are you stuck feeling like

The one thing that everyone I co-conspire (aka clients) have in common is that we each have reached a point in our lives that what we’ve been doing isn’t working, something has to change, and all were referred to me and reached out to me because they were feeling so stuck with something in their lives,

When we experience feeling stuck between a rock and hard place, we are attached to a diminished/diminishing way of thinking and being, that only allows us to see two options for ourselves — keep sucking it up or give up.

OMG! I thought I was changing my life, but I’ve basically married (and divorced) the ‘same person' three times! Why did I do this? —A long-time friend and new client